We have been told to increasingly pride ourselves on being independent and not depending on anyone (more so in the western culture). We are embarrassed to seek support or help even when we need it most. Strangely we link it to not being capable enough or strong enough. But the truth of the matter is that we are all social beings, and we need and crave meaningful human connections. We have this intrinsic need to belong, to love, and to be loved.

Additionally, on the opposite end of the spectrum, we are living in an increasingly isolated world. Science says, “Lonely people are 50% more likely to die prematurely than those with healthy social connections.”

Face to face connections have turned into online equations. We are too busy to make time for friends and family. Its time we change this. Life is not easy. We don’t need to do it all alone without the support of our loved ones. We must make time to create a support system with which we can share our ups and downs. Relationships are crucial for happiness. Friends and family provide emotional support, help us build our self-worth, they remind us what we can achieve, they give us a gentle nudge in the right direction when we seem to be slipping. We can all live alone, but probability (and science) says that it will be a short, unfulfilling life. We aren’t designed that way.

Let us look at what good healthy relationships bring to the table, and why these quality relationships are so important!?

1. They give us a sense of belonging – Let’s pretend that for the most part, you had a “normal” upbringing. Mom, dad, siblings, cousins, thanksgiving dinners, Christmas celebrations, and birthday parties. Did you worry about anything? You knew your place in the family, and where you stood with everyone. You had shelter, you were protected. Now imagine all of that going away. It’s literally you vs. the rest of the world. 
2. They make us happier – Ever tried giving without expectations? Sharing is caring; it’s been said. Some of the most fulfilling moments of my life have been when I have given unconditionally. It’s the giving, of time, and love that makes us truly happy. 
3. They promote our wellbeing – Both mental and emotional. 
4. They are the antidote to loneliness – Search “loneliness deaths” on google, and you’ll see why. 
5. They reduce stress – Having a strong support system means people to spend time with, talking, laughing, crying, touching, and, ultimately, sharing your life with. 

So, how do we have quality relationships in our life?

1. Relationships are a two-way street – What you give is what you get. Pay attention to the people around you. Make an effort to listen and understand truly. Be sensitive to their needs and struggles. Be there for them and support them. Whether it is a romantic relationship or relationship with your friends and family- give your undivided attention and time. This will help create a deeper emotional bond.
2. Be with people you are comfortable around – Pay attention to how a person makes you feel. Stick to people who treat you with respect and are there to support you without judgment. Bonus if they can make you laugh. You want to make sure to be around people that don’t drain you. You know the people I’m talking about. You feel completely drained after being around them. Their negativity, and their lack of gratitude in life. 
3. Cultivate relationships at work – It is also essential to develop meaningful relationships at work. We spend so much time that it becomes crucial to not neglect this aspect of our life. You will hear people saying – ‘I am here to work and not make friends’. Wouldn’t it be amazing to work with people with whom you get along and have fun working?
4. Love yourself – Last but not least, love yourself. When you are in love with yourself, only then can you fully give to someone else. You must understand how to love yourself to love others. You must accept yourself as you are, and know that you’re a work in progress, just like everyone else on this planet. We can be too hard on ourselves. 

Let us stop being ashamed of seeking meaningful and deep human connections. Let us reach out to people close to us- our family and friends. Let us be there for one another. Let us create this world where we are kind to one another, where we care and love. Let us help each other to enjoy and thrive in this journey that we call life.